Friendship and motherhood are very similar. Before motherhood we develop the skills necessary to become good mothers through nurturing our friendships. Once we become mothers, we need friendship to get us through the tough parts of motherhood. Both friendship and motherhood evolve through time. The newborn stage is exciting, yet can be tiring. Learning about each other, treading carefully through the unknown. After a couple of years you start to rely more on one another. Memories are made, the bond grows even stronger. At some point you feel as if you can’t remember what your life was like without this person and you don’t ever want to.
I treasure my friends and the time spent together. My friendships have evolved from single life to mommy life. Long shopping trips and movies have been replaced with playgrounds and birthday parties. My old self would seem to think that sort of friendship would be boring. That sort of friendship must revolve around conversations about potty training and breastfeeding. Then I became a mom and “got it”. Moms need close mom friends to survive this crazy motherhood thing. My mom friends are amazing. They are nurturing, empathetic, talented, and loving moms, who would do anything for their children and their friends.
A few weeks ago I had a fantastic day with my friend Erin and her two boys at the National Arboretum. I’d like to say it was the perfect sitcom like day, where all the kids behaved like angels and we pushed them around in their strollers. Ha! Who am I kidding? Does anyone ever experience this? The kids ran around chasing each other, tried to jump in the fish pond several times and did not want to sit for any longer than 10 seconds. We persevered together, just as mom’s do. In the end we did manage to sit down in the shade and talk. Not just small talk but real nurturing, adult conversation. It was the best thirty minutes of the week.