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21 Week Baby Bump

by Mindi Stavish on February 7, 2013

21 weeks with words

Major Events

On the day baby turned 20 weeks my family of 4.5 were in a pretty bad car accident. I can’t even begin to explain how worried I was about the health of my unborn child (and my other two children) upon impact. It was was such an awful feeling.  To make matters worse, I went to the hospital alone to be evaluated, while Adrian and the boys remained at the scene of the accident to deal with the paperwork. The ride in the ambulance to the hospital seemed to take forever, but for some reason I didn’t break down until I got up to the OB floor. As I was wheeled into the room, I kept thinking, “I’m not suppose to be here for another 2o weeks. What if this is my one an only time on this floor during this pregnancy? What if I have to leave this floor with no baby?” Horrible thoughts for any mommy-to-be to contemplate!

Thankfully, the story has a happy ending! The nurses were able to find the baby’s heartbeat and I was not having any contractions. I was sent home about an hour after being admitted, relieved and exhausted. The somewhat annoying part of the whole thing is that the ER doctors didn’t even take the time to examine me. I complained about my ribs hurting, but at the time wasn’t really in the right mindset to advocate to be looked at closer. Days later my rib pain started getting worse, so I made an appointment with my primary care doctor. My doctor diagnosed me with cracked ribs and sent me home with orders for rest, tylenol and heat/ice.

I had my 21 week OB appointment this past Monday and my OB was not impressed that the ER did not examine me for injuries. She also thankfully prescribed me medication that would help my pain and even that is still not cutting it well. I’m usually not a huge complainer when it comes to pregnant aches and pains, because I know it comes with the territory. I will say that having broken ribs while pregnant is NOT fun! The pain is pretty severe and sleeping is impossible. So my second trimester honeymoon phase has turned into no honeymoon at all. Lucky for me my ribs hopefully will heal 2-4 weeks into my third trimester when the fun really happens. I am thankful that the accident didn’t occur later into my pregnancy, because I can’t even imagine laboring with broken ribs.

Movement Watch

Baby Stavish is moving a lot lately, which is so reassuring after all he or she has been through. I started feeling stronger kicks right around 19 weeks. Adrian first felt the kicks while we were watching the Super Bowl. Baby kicks are one of my favorite parts about being pregnant!!

21 weeks and happy

Gender

If you remember, I had my anatomy scan right around 18 weeks. Going into the scan, Adrian and I decided that he would find out the gender and keep it to himself. Baby is still breech and was not fully cooperating with tech, so she was unable to get of the leg measurements. She was also unable to determine the gender. My OB reviewed the tech’s notes from the scan and determined that we will not need a follow-up ultrasound, as the tech did get measurements of the all the major organs and body parts. So it looks like we will ALL be team green with this baby! I’m excited to for a great surprise come June!!

21 weeks looking down

Nursery Progress

Last weekend, I went a little pin happy and came across a lot of cute whale artwork for the nursery. I also found some adorable fabric for the bedding. The one and only item I have purchased so far are these white whale decals that will go above baby’s crib. Once I get through Xander’s birthday party, I’m going to narrow down fabric and start sewing bedding and a few cute whale pillows. I also want to knit a few stuffed whales.

Phew it’s been a hectic couple of pregnancy weeks! I truly hope the next four weeks are a lot quieter.

21 weeks up close

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Car Accident

by Mindi Stavish on January 31, 2013

fire truck

Last Saturday afternoon my family and I were headed to dinner on a local highway we drive on frequently, when my worst nightmare came true. A rookie driver pulled onto oncoming traffic without regarding the fact that my family was traveling down the very same road at about 50 mph. My husband was driving and quickly hit the brakes, swerving to the right in an attempt to avoid the collision. As our beastly Toyota Hylander plummeted toward her red car, my thoughts were racing, “Holy shit, we are going to hit her. Oh my god, please protect my babies.”.

The impact was earth shattering.

Bruising.

Mind erasing.

Ear piercing.

The silence that followed the split second later was horrible.

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I feared what I would find in the back seat.

Our tiny precious boys, strapped into their carseats, were not making a sound.

Bracing myself for the worst, I quickly whipped my entire body around to meet the eyes of my first born.

He was alive, breathing, and appearing to be unharmed. His big blue eyes wide-eyed with shock.

I just wanted to wrap my big mama arms around him and never let go.

Breathing a quick sigh of relief, I then propped myself up and over my seat to lay my eyes on my youngest baby boy, who is thankfully still rear facing.

When his little head moved I finally let out a big sigh of relief. His eyes were open and his expression was somber.

Relief flooded over me, but then dread followed.

The baby. My 20 week little baby with 20 more weeks left to grow inside of me. Was my body enough to protect my unborn child from harm?

People raced to our car, as I watched the scene unfold.

The rookie driver hysterical on the side of the road, the firetruck racing to the scene with their red lights flashing, the coldness of the night chilling my body.

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My husband and I agreed that I needed to go to the ER for the baby to be evaluated. I turned to the boys and told them, “Mommy will be back, I promise.” with tears in my eyes. The question left unanswered, would I be returning without their unborn sibling?

The EMTs rolled me into the ambulance on that cold night. As soon as the doors closed, tears fell down my face.

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Shock.

Fear.

Anger.

I waited to feel the slightest movement of the baby, but felt nothing.

The sirens blared. I watched out the window as the world passed me by.

The 20 minute ride felt like eternity.

When we arrived at the ER I was wheeled right into a room. Shortly after the EMT’s left, a nurse greeted me. Her smile and demeanor a bright ray of hope. She left and returned about 10 minutes later with a fetal doppler.

Cold gel slathered on my bump.

Wand to stomach.

I held my breath and waited.

Thump, whoosh, thump, woosh. One happy heartbeat.

Tears of joy this time. Relief for now.

With the confirmation of a heartbeat I was soon wheeled up to the Labor and Delivery floor. When I stood up for the first time since getting into the ambulance I felt wet.

“Do not panic, do not panic.” my inner voice said, as I told the nurse. She soon checked me for amniotic fluid and thankfully it was not.

Another huge sigh of relief.

More gel on my baby bump.

The fetal doppler singing once again.

The nurse hooked me up to a machine that would measure any cotractions I may be having.

Holding my breath once again, I waited.

The minutes crawled by.

When the nurse returned to give me the news that the doctor felt I was ready to be discharged I was filled with joy.

As I walked down the empty hospital hallway toward the exit, my mind filled with thoughts of home, my family. the accident, and our car moving toward the out of place red car.

It all could have gone so differently.

Life as I know it completly changing.

I am thankful. My family is still standing as a unit.

My pregnancy continues.

Baby kicks being felt.

A nursery to decorate.

An adorable coming home outfit to choose.

Almost a week after our accident, my husband and I continue to struggle with unimaginable pain, yet we are thankful. We have so much life to live.

Birthdays to celebrate.

Hugs to give.

Tears to wipe away.

Graduations to attend.

Weddings to plan.

Their whole lives ahead of them.

We still have it all.

Mama’s Losin’ It

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